Lessons I’ve learned from my rose tree

Bear with me on this one!

A bit of a backstory

My dad, who died in 2004, was a really keen gardener and his garden truly was a thing of beauty.  He certainly had been blessed with ‘green fingers’ and it appears to be something I have absolutely not inherited from him!  I’ve attempted over the past few years to grow things in our small back garden with very little success and even the hardiest of plants and flowers haven’t lasted very long.  I really wanted a lovely colourful garden but it seemed like I just didn’t have the knack to keep anything alive in there!

May 2021: A lovely gift

In May 2021, I received a gift from a special friend in the post  – and inside the box was a tiny little yellow rose tree (yellow is my favourite colour).  

I won’t lie, my first thought was ‘oh no, I’m going to kill this one too’ but my second one was ‘I need to learn what to do in order to give this plant the best chance of survival’.

I did a bit of research online and spoke to a few friends who have lovely gardens to get some advice.  I then went to the garden centre to purchase a nice pot, some good quality compost and some rose feed.  

Next was the ‘repotting’ – I’d picked up a lot of tips and got some help from the hubby to drill some holes in the bottom of my new pot, broke up some old tiles for drainage before actually do the repotting itself.

My rose tree – I’d probably had it a couple of weeks when I took this photo.

Over the next few months, my rose tree became my new ‘baby’ – I checked on it every day, carried on learning and checking what I needed to do to look after it – when to feed it, how often to water it, deadheading techniques, debugging it, turning it often so get sun to all parts of it – and I loved watching it grow and develop.  

It grew so quickly and I very soon started being rewarded with beautiful yellow roses which smelt amazing too.

I was so proud of myself for investing the time in learning what to do and finding the time every day to care for it and nurture it.

The bees loved it too and visited it daily!

It was a backdrop for my food photos!

It brought me lots of joy and brightened up my garden on the cloudiest of days.

It gave me confidence to buy more roses and other plants and I found a new love of gardening (which is great exercise and great for your mental health too)

By the time Autumn came along, it had quadrupled in size – I now had to get it through winter safely.

Back to my research and asking for tips from people with a lot more knowledge than me! 

It spent a few days in my office during the coldest days of the winter but it survived and I was over the moon.

Spring 2022 and it was flourishing, I had multiple new stems growing, it had thickened out loads and started flowering very early and from about May onwards, we had a constant display of beautiful fragrant yellow blooms to enjoy and my love of gardening had ramped up another notch.  

I’m lucky that I work from home and I have my office in the garden so I get to enjoy my garden all day long.  I put all my knowledge from last year into keeping all my plants and flowers healthy and dedicate quite a bit of time to keeping everything healthy and flourishing.

7th August 2022: the fire

At about 5pm on Sunday 5th August, a fire started in the parkland behind our house and within minutes had swept into our garden, along with about 15 of our neighbours’.  The whole street was evacuated to a nearby social club and the last we saw was the huge tree behind our house on fire and the thick smoke completely enveloping the street.  About 4 hours later, we were informed by the police that the fire brigade had the fire under control and that their herculean effort and saved all houses from major damage but that there was a huge amount of destruction to a number of gardens.  We were allowed back into our house around midnight whilst the fire brigade continued checking for embers and continuing to water the properties for another 18 hours.

We woke up to see our whole garden had been affected – I’d lost my office and the contents within, my husband lost his shed and the full contents of that, our fences, lawn and all of my plants and flowers were also destroyed.  We were both devastated and completely relieved – no-one had been hurt, our home had only minor damage but we’d lost so much.

The next few days were a bit of a blur – I think we were in a bit of shock, there was lots of admin to be done and the start of a lot of appointments with insurance people, various contractors, tree surgeons etc and it wasn’t until the Wednesday that I properly checked on my rose when I was sweeping up some glass.  It was completely burned apart from a tiny bit right at the bottom that was brown instead of black!’

Asking for help

I had no idea if it could be saved or what I should do so I turned to social media and put a photo up and asked if anyone knew what I could do to try to save my beloved rose.  All my other plants had perished but I was so hopeful that that one bit of unburned stem may mean there was still a bit of life left.

I got so many helpful replies with the overriding opinion being that it may still have a chance – I needed to do a thorough prune right down to the base of the stem and a repot.  One of my problems was a practical one: all my tools had been lost in the fire, another problem was a knowledge one: I’ve never repotted an established plant before and I had no idea how ruthless I needed to be in the chopping stage and another was an emotional one: I had no confidence I could do this and still save the rose.

A very lovely friend offered to drive around to mine complete with her tools to help me do it and I was so incredibly grateful for her offer as I’d been feeling very daunted about tackling it alone.

Sue was so confident in tackling the rose, she definitely chopped a lot more off than I would have done, she showed me the best way to carefully remove it from it’s melted pot to protect the roots as well as exactly the best way to repot it to give it the best chance of survival.

After about an hour of ‘surgery’ – my rose was repotted and there was a glimmer of green at the very bottom.

Sue gave me some great advice on what I needed to do over the next few weeks and left me feeling hopeful that my rose could still make it.

So, how's it doing?

7 days later

14 days later

I’m ecstatic – my rose is absolutely flourishing, it’s already not much smaller than when I first received it in May 2021, it’s growing practically before my very eyes and it’s got multiple new stems and looking very very healthy and I’m confident in my own abilities to keep it alive from this point from all of the knowledge I’ve picked up since I first received it.

So, what's the point of this long and rambling tale?

The whole 18 month life with my rose reminded me a lot of my weight loss journey:

  • I started from a point of no knowledge whatsoever
  • I had to find help from other sources – both online and in person and I drew on the support of friends and people with more experience or knowledge than me and learned from them over and over again
  • I dedicated my time daily to the tasks at hand and had to adapt and learn what to do in different situations 
  • I made a commitment to the task and it was one with slow progress so I learned to enjoy the small wins along the way
  • Every now and again, I’d reap the real rewards of what I was doing and have really visible and physical reminders of why I was committed to this
  • The project had no end date and it would involve constant attention and dedication every day – no matter what the weather, how I was feeling, how busy I was etc etc
  • There are certain tools you need in order to make the task easier
  • There’s nothing wrong with needing help at times of adversity
  • Even if everything seems like it’s over and it’s too hard, don’t give up
  • No matter how bad things get, you can always start over
  • There will always be obstacles and things that get in your way – it’s how you react to them that matter

And most importantly, the feeling of joy and accomplishment is completely worth all of the effort it takes.

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I’d love to hear any thoughts or comments on this post and if there’s anything that really works for you to help keep you on track or how to keep the motivation going strong!

5 thoughts on “Lessons I’ve learned from my rose tree”

  1. That is a wonderful story Georgina and I am sure your rose will flourish with your care and attention. We are all as resiliant as plants and can survive much more than we realise when we are fully tested.

  2. Love the story George and I am so glad that your beautiful yellow rose survived the horrible fire. Really glad that your main house was saved, our firefighters are true heroes. The story really does run parallel to your journey, and what a grand way to tell it. xx

    1. Awww 🥰 that brought a tear to my eye .
      One thing I know is that both you and your yellow rose will flourish together. As we all will with your guidance and help. xx

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